1/12/2013

saying yes to going out this year

Happy Saturday morning! Hope everyone is off to a great start to the weekend. I know I am ;) Last night I went dancing with a close girlfriend and we had such a good time! I haven’t been out dancing in ages and after last night am committing to going at least once a month. I grew up as a ballet dancer and have always loved to dance. It feels amazing to move my body like that and dancing with friends is such a fun social activity!

For the last two years I have been in super serious work mode. I went back to school, completed three major programs in culinary arts, nutrition and yoga. I am very proud of myself for accomplishing those goals. I knew deep down I needed to do a great deal of continuing education and I totally went for it in all of those areas. As a result of being super busy and focused my social life suffered and I am just now seeing the effects of that.

I am one of those people that goes back and fourth from needing lots of alone time and some social time. When I was younger I was extremely social. I always had a lot of friends and got so many invitations to go do things, I had to turn stuff down often. Today that is definitely not the case! Don’t get me wrong, I do get invited out just not as much as I once did and a lot of that is because I need much more alone time than I did back then. I also have said no so much these last two years that many invitations stopped coming.

Saying yes and living a large life is part of my theme for this year. While I cannot go out all of the time, nor do I wish to, I am going to say yes to going out this year much more than I have in recent years. One way to connect to a city and it’s people is by uh, leaving the house and doing social activities. This is very obvious but it’s taken me a little while to get it. I also had a lot of walls up when I moved to LA and lived a pretty rigid life. I had a set wake up and bed time and scheduled all of my meal times as well. I was so rigid I wouldn’t go out to movies, shows and shut down many opportunities to be social.

In retrospect I know I needed to do that for myself. When I got to LA I had lived in something like 7 places in the previous 2 years including a roadside motel with my cat, ¬†traveled to lots of countries, was in the middle of a nutrition program and had just started my yoga intensives. Oh and then I’m living in a new city! So yeah. It was a lot. The only way I could cope and get a sense of peace and stability was to create a schedule for myself and stick to it no matter what. Having this blog was one of my biggest creative and social outlets last year and I am very grateful for that.

Now that I am well out of school and training I am focusing on getting my business off of the ground. It is a lot of work but it is exciting and fun to me, it really doesn’t even feel like work because I absolutely love what I do. In addition to creating my career life I am working on going out more and being social. So far this year I have already been to a handful of movies, a music show, dancing, had several friends over for meals, and have lots more plans this month which include art openings, more dancing, and short trips out of Los Angeles – oh and not to mention I am in the middle of finishing my eBook, getting my website launched, working with clients, meditating daily and getting back into the yoga studio. Life is totally in session and I am loving each day more than I ever imagined possible.

It’s amazing how the more I say yes, the more opportunities come my way – it really does work like that. My job is to do the necessary internal work so that I can stay focused on my self-care and dreams and be open to what the universe has to offer. While I was walking to my car yesterday after an incredible yoga class I was reminded that everything is up to me, my world view and my feelings are unquestionably linked to what is going on inside my body and mind. Honestly that is a huge relief because it means there is something I can do about my life. I am here to take full responsibility for going after what, nobody else can do my work or live my life.

Here’s to a wonderful start to the new year. If you are still unsure where you are headed I challenge you to spend some quiet time setting intentions¬†for yourself and then see what you need to do to reach your goals and live the fullest life possible. Say yes to things you would normally say no to – be willing to shake things up and have new experiences. We never know what we will find or who we will meet along the way.

xoa

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