Today I feel energized and excited about a challenge I am undertaking and I would love for you to be a part of it.
Something that came through really clearly for me over the weekend was that I am ready to give up complaining. It has absolutely no place in my life anymore, and I want to take that energy and put it to good use. Complaining is an insidious habit. It seems like it’s nothing in the moment, but in reality it narrows our view and keeps us from living in abundance and prosperity.
Our words carry energy. Our own sound currant is a powerful force that we can use to widen our perspective and heal ourselves, or perpetuate cycles of dis-ease and scarcity. Think about it. Every time you complain about something you are giving it your energy. What usually follows is sinking your hooks into a story that preserves an attachment to a core belief.
This can sound a bit abstract so let’s break it down with an example from my weekend.
I complained about the food on the retreat. It wasn’t my only complaint, but it taught me a great deal about myself when I took the time to really explore what was behind my words.
Was it my favorite food in the world? No. Was it how I would prepare food at home? No. Was it enough nourishment to get me through the weekend? Yes. Did I bring my supplements on retreat to take care of myself? Yes.
When I complained about the food it took my awareness out of the present moment and I started thinking about other retreats I’d been on with better food. Then I went into how I would do it differently if it was my retreat (ego). From there I slid into scarcity about how my body wasn’t getting enough vitamins and minerals, and my whole story about the current way I am eating to heal x-y-and y. From there I got to the core belief that there is something wrong with my body and that I doubted its ability to heal on its own. This inevitably dulled my frequency and in that space it’s very difficult to invite in love and miracles.
I get that this might sound like an extreme example, but is it?
Think about the last time you complained about something and then spend some time unpacking it. What is the belief behind the complaint?
If it’s hard to take it that far just pay attention to how complaining makes you feel. That will give you a very clear entry point into the places in your life you need to do some work.
Going through this exercise it’s now very easy for me to see that there is a great deal of energy present each time I complain. It became clear to me over the weekend that if I want more love and prosperity in my life I need to step away from the diminishing frequency of complaining and step into the light of blessing.
Just like a complaint, a blessing carries an energy current that shifts our state. It’s been well researched that the happiest people are not the people with the most money or the least amount of hardship. The most joyful people choose to live in gratitude and are dedicated to blessing each challenge as an opportunity to grow. The more we bless the more we reprogram our core beliefs to match our true spirit which has everything to do with love and nothing to do with scarcity.
Each time we complain we strengthen our core beliefs that do not serve our highest good, we also lose access to our intuition. This is key, especially as women. If you want to enlarge your spiritual capacity and deepen your intuition you must stop complaining.
All of the great spiritual teachers I’ve admired over the years have this in common: they don’t complain about the stuff that happens in their daily lives. They understand that this depletes their inner power and has no place in true, heart centered leadership.
As I take another leap into my role as a teacher I believe with my whole heart that creating discipline around refusing to complain will make me happier, more resilient, and give me a greater capacity to be of service.
Because I’ve never been good at changing behaviors cold turkey, every time I catch myself in a complaint I am going to turn it around with a blessing. This gives me a quick way to change the energy from dull to light. On days when I’m really aware of my complain-y thoughts I will change them into blessings before the words come out of my mouth. I just got a jolt of energy writing that, I think we’re onto something major here!
I have no doubt this will be a confrontational practice. I’m ready. Some days I will have to fake it until I make it and that is 100 percent okay with me. It’s a tall order to change a habit I’ve had since as long as I can remember. It’s going to take effort, patience, practice, and community.
I want to participate in the constant flow of love that is happening through us in every moment. A quick way to access that healing is to make a serious effort to bless every time I want to complain. Blessings keep us in gratitude and it’s impossible to be grateful and grumbling about life at the same time.
One last thought: Engaging in other people’s complaints doesn’t help us grow. Use this challenge as a time to pay attention to what is being said around you. When people come to you with complaints shift the conversation and observe how that changes the energy. This part of the practice takes work. Do your best and be gentle with yourself during the process. The beauty of energy is that the more we change the more everyone changes around us.
Today is day one of my 40 Day Challenge: No Complaining. It takes 40 days to change a habit so I am going to start here. If this resonates with you and you feel called to join me please do.
Lots of love.