Today I want to talk about connecting to the why. This is such a dear topic to me. Yesterday I had a great (and much needed) session with my life coach. It felt so good just to be honest about what I am going through and get perspective. I’m one of those people that enjoys my solitude and being still to let answers come. There are also times when I just need to hash out my stuff with someone I trust. That has proven to be a winning combination in my life for years.
The last two months I have been working so hard and haven’t had nearly as much down time for myself as I usually do. As a result I have been more tired and when I am on the tired side my tendency is to take things personally. When my energy is pulled in many directions and I have trouble connecting to the why, my greater purpose, and it’s easy to get bummed out by external stuff.
People stop following my Instagram feed. A friend doesn’t take my advice. A client fades away. When I am grounded in why I do what I do these things don’t even really register. I am fully able to go with the flow and am very trusting that things are all in divine order. When I am not grounded in why I do what I do, I start looking outside of myself for validation and guess what – it’s never enough!
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
We all have our core issues. It’s part of what makes us interesting and able to help each other. Many of them we got by default because of our parents. It’s not their fault, it’s just how things are. I know that one of my core issues is self-doubt. That will probably never go away and after years and years of fighting it, I am willing to surrender. The healing doesn’t come from trying to fix who we are, it comes from accepting our limitations and remembering that there is always a spiritual solution.
The remedy for my self-doubt is to check in on a daily basis with the why. The why for me is what gets me out of bed. It’s what inspires me to create and give no matter who is looking and no matter how much recognition I do or don’t receive. The why is deeply spiritual and transcends self-doubt every single time. The why isn’t based on ego and therefore is not affected by outside circumstances.
And it’s a practice. A daily practice. Each time I return to the why I come back to my true home and feel calm. This is the place I like to dwell and when I remember that it is always available to me things shift dramatically.