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You Know When It’s Time to Let Go


On the last day of the year it feels fitting to share a poem about letting go. As many of you know I am in the middle of a huge transition in my relationship with Jason and just moved into my own home last week.

My mother has been out here helping me get settled and this morning I am heading to New Mexico for a fire walk and to ring in 2016 with a lot of letting go and a ton of love.

Thank you all for being with me this last year. It was such a life changing year on every level. I look forward to sharing more about this phase of my journey with you when I am back next week and continuing our conversations on radical self care, vulnerability, and being brave. Wishing you all the most magical 2016.

I love you.




You know when to let go by the way it feels,

that sensation in your stomach telling you, not so quietly anymore that it’s time.

You have tried hard enough and you have to trust that you did everything you could.

It’s not your fault,

it’s not anybody’s fault,

it’s just the way things are.


You know when to let go by the way it feels,

what started out as a faint whisper of intuition, grew into something much larger every time you shook your head and said no, not yet,

and it’s alright.

We’re all learning here and nobody is doing it perfectly trust me.

Even if you stayed longer than you wanted to,

you’re okay.


You know when to let go by the way it feels,

your bones are heavy and all of the weight inside cannot be carried forward,

you want to travel lighter and this is part of the process.

It’s your next initiation, perfectly crafted by the cosmos just for you,

the timing is divine and you’ve got this,

even if it feels like you’re making it up as you go along.

This is your destiny.


You know when to let go by the way it feels,

because when you do finally say, i release you, from the depth of your heart the entire universe will conspire for your greatest good the way it has since you were born.

Nature is talking to you, remember the hawks that show up right when you start to question through huge fits of crying, why did I let go?

It’s supposed to hurt. Believe me.

Or what about the endless stream of butterflies that appear during those moments your heart feels heavy?

They are messengers sent as a gift to you,

you are changing,

you are transforming,

and even in this darkness there is so much light coming through you.


You know when to let go by the way it feels,

and for the first time in many moons you said yes, to trusting the deepest parts of yourself,

and that my dear is the teaching.

You are whole.
You are so damn brave.
You are a gift.



Photo | Lani Trock


  • Sending you loads of love & encouragement.

    • ashley

      Hi dear Ashley! It is so wonderful to hear from you. I really appreciate your love and support. Soaking it all in. Wishing you a brave and fantastic New Year. Big hugs. xoa

  • Heather

    Thank you for posting this poem, the timing is perfect. I’m going through a transition too and though it’s a happy time and I am scared. Your poem made me realize I am doing the right thing. It’s okay to be scared, this is something new and I need to remember I am brave and I can handle all the wonderful things I am going to be experiencing.

    I wish you love and support during your transition..

    • ashley

      Hello Heather, it is great to connect with you. I am grateful for your reflection. Thank you for sharing what you are going through. It is totally okay to be afraid and you are brave. Recognizing that even though you are afraid you are doing the right thing is huge! Sending lots of love your way during your transition and keep me posted on how things open up in your life. I have so many good feelings about this new year for all of us. Lots of love. xoa

  • Kamaile

    Just what I needed to hear this first morning of the new year.
    New reader here & I’ll be staying a while. :-)
    Found you through Free + Native

    • ashley

      Hello Kamaile!
      It is wonderful to hear from you. Thank you for taking the time to say hi. I adore Free + Native! Lacy is such a light. Really happy this poem resonated with you. Sending love your way for a fantastic 2016! xoa

  • Meg

    Many blessings in this time of shift. You are in my heart and I am holding your hand.

    All love in this new year and new moment. You shine so bright.

    XO Meg Miller

    • ashley

      Dearest Meg it is always such a pleasure to hear from you. I am truly grateful for your presence in my life. Thank you for the love and support. Wishing you a brave and exciting new year! xoa

  • Marie

    Lots of love and light xox

    • ashley

      Thank you sweet Marie! Wishing you a glorious 2016! xoa

  • Happy New Year, Ashley. May it bring joy and happiness to you! Thank you again for a wonderful post with perfect timing! I am glad I found you! Corina

    • ashley

      Happy new year my dear! I hope 2016 is off to a great start for you. I am always so happy to connect with you. Thank you for the continued love and support. Sending it right back to you ;) Big hugs! xoa

  • Jenna

    I just ended a rough relationship that I knew was bad for me. It was harder and harder to not listen to the messages I was receiving from the world. And they were SUPER LOUD. Just wanted to say I enjoyed this post and that you are not alone.

    • ashley

      Hi Jenna,
      So glad you’re here. Good for you ending the relationship. I hear you about the loud messages :) Wishing you a beautiful rest of the week. Sending love. xoa

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